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1: NAGSESELOS - Kasi nga takot na maagaw ka.

2: NAGAGALIT - Kasi may kasalanan ka.

3. HINDI NAGREREPLY- Kasi ayaw niya ng humaba ang away.

4: NAGTATAMPO- Kasi gusto niya ng lambing mo.

5: NAGSOSORRY - Kasi nagsisisi na siya.

At higit sa lahat…

6: INIIYAKAN KA - KASI MAHAL KA NIYA TALAGA. ♥

1. A man won’t let go if he really loves you.

- Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell.

2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.

- There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.

3. Do not get hang up on your past.

- Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn’t guard him enough or you didn’t make him happy enough.

4. Do not look into images.

- How many times have you met a girl who didn’t have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your “supposedly” perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.

5. Always have your own set of rules.

- Set your limits on how far you’d go for a guy. It’s perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it’s worth it. And it’s worth it if the guy is treating you right.

6. Do not be scared to lose him.

- Don’t be scared that he’ll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.

7. Avoid calling your guy.

- It’’ a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it’s the guy who’s calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it’s a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).

8. There is a guy who will value you.

- There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don’t lose hope. Don’t settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can.

Also, do not believe him when he says it’s just the way he really is. He’s not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.

9. Always be the only one, no matter what.

- Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can’t get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can’t leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.

10. He must respect you.

- No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.

11. If he fooled you, end it.

- Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again.

12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.

- Do not steal another girl’s man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.

13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.

- Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn’t come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.

14. Do not settle.

- If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly. He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.

15. A relationship has to have love.

- Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties.

16. Don’t be afraid to be single.

- It’s fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle.

17. Be a good girl.

- Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.

18. Love without limits.

- Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn’t give your all, you get hurt for nothing.

19. You will get over him.

- Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love another.

20. Be the one.

- Act like you are the one. Don’t be a nagger. Don’t hinder his gimmicks. Don’t give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don’t be easy. Don’t be like every other girl he had in his life.

A man won’t let go, if he really loves you.

•Ang sarap sa pakiramdam ng umiiyak kayo sa harap namin.
•Ang sarap sa pakiramdam kapag tinatawag niyo kaming maganda.
•Ang sarap sa pakiramdam kapag hinahawakan niyo kamay namin.
•Ang sarap sa pakiramdam kapag pinapakilala niyo kami sa mga kaibigan niyo.
•Ang sarap sa pakiramdam ng mga yakap niyo.
•Ang sarap sa pakiramdam makita ng mga ngiti niyo.
•Ang sarap basahin ng mga Iloveyou messages niyo.
•Ang sarap sa pakiramdam kapag totoo yung pagmamahal niyo.

Yung lalaking sasamahan ka hanggang sa makatulog ka. Yung hindi aalis hanggat hindi pa mahimbing ang tulog mo. Yung bubulungan ka ng, “TULOG NA, BUKAS PAGGISING MO, MAHAL PARIN KITA. PANGAKO.”.

“Ang tunay na lalaki, kahit galit sayo, siguradong siya ang mauunang kumausap sayo dahil di ka niya matiis at dahil mahal ka niya.”

Kung nagkamali man siya sayo, huwag mong itama yun sa pamamagitan ng pagganti sa kanya. Kahit kailan ay hindi healthy sa isang relasyon ang gantihan. Walang mangyayari sa inyo.

Kapag:

•Inaasar lagi siya sa isang tao - ito ang isa sa mga dahilan kung bakit nadedevelop ang nararamdaman ng isang tao. Kapag inaasar sila o kapag pinapartner sa isang tao.

•Lagi mong kausap ang isang tao - yung tipong nasasanay kang kausap mo lagi ang taong ‘yon. Yung hindi lilipas ang isang araw na hindi mo siya makakausap.

•Pareho kayo ng hilig - kumbaga, nagja-jive sila. Pareho ang interes nilang dalawa.

•Napapatawa ka niya - malaking bagay kasi na napapatawa ka ng isang tao. Yung napapasaya ka niya kasi nakakagaan yun ng pakiramdam.

•Nagbibiruan / tuksuhan - na madalas nauuwi sa totohanan. Dito nagsisimula ‘yan e. Sa isang “joke” na madalas nagiging seryoso

1. Ang mga babae, madaldal/mabunganga – Oo, wala talagang tigil ang bibig nila sa pag-rachada sa kakasalita. Lalo na sa tuwing pinapaalala nila sayo na oras na para inumin ang iyong gamot, kapag nagtatanong sila kung kumain ka naba, kapag ginigising ka nila sa umaga upang hindi ma-late, at sa mga pagkakataong nag-aalala sila sayo at tinatanong kung nasaan kana at bakit hindi ka pa umuuwi. Walang duda. Madaldal nga. Hayaan mo na, balang araw, siguro magbabago din sila. Tipong maririnig mo lang e “Oo”, “Hindi” at “Pwede”. Para kayong naglalaro ng Pinoy Henyo. Romantic siguro ng buhay niyo nun.

2. Ang mga babae, masyadong sentimental – Sinabi mo pa. Tandang tanda nga nila ang petsa at lugar kung saan kayo unang nag date, isinulat niya din sa kanyang diary kung ano ang mga ginawa niyo, nakatago at ingat na ingat siya sa mga larawan ninyong dalawa, daig pa niya ang Smithsonian sa pag-aalaga ng mga iniregalo mo at kahit kailan di niya nalilimutan ang mga importanteng okasyon tulad ng anniversary, monthsary, weeksary o birthday mo. Nakaka-inis ba? Ok lang yan, malay mo next time, hindi na siya ganun. Tipong i-aasa nalang niya sa Facebook ang pag-alala ng iyong kaarawan. Tapos tamang post nalang sa wall mo ng “hapi bday”.

3. Ang mga babae, emosyonal – They cry about movies. They get teary with a romantic novel. They blush and gasp upon seeing a picture of a cute dog or cuddly baby. Bakit ba ganun sila? Buti nalang tayo hindi. Kinikimkim lang natin lahat ng emosyon sa loob hanggang sa sumabog at atakihin sa puso o di naman kaya e magpapakalasing tapos magwawala at maghahamon ng wrestling. Di ba mas logical yun? At bakit ba gusto nila laging pag-usapan ang mga nararamdaman ng bawat isa? Madalas pa mag-imagine na ikakasal kayo sa simbahan. Laging nag a-iloveyou, i miss you, take care at mwah mwah sa text o IM. Asar ka naba at nako-cornyhan? Ayos lang yan. Darating din siguro ang time na titigil siya. At ise-send ang mga yun sa iba.

Women are probably the greatest gift to men, from God, besides beer and sizzling sisig. At para sakin, women deserve all advantages, lalo na sa pag-ibig. Sana lahat ng babae ay maging masaya ang love life. Sana, walang babaeng heart-broken. Kasi, tayong mga lalake, we’re meant to pursue them and it’s ok if we fail from time to time. It’s the way nature intended it. Gaya ng paghabol ng isang leon sa usa o pag-ikot ng earth sa paligid ng araw. Mas ok kung tayo nalang yung masaktan. E sila? Isipin mo, nagkakaroon sila ng “dalaw” at nababaliw kada buwan, nabubuntis at maghihirap ng 9 months, at pinaka matindi sa lahat, kailangan pa nilang panatilihing makinis at walang buhok ang kanilang mga kili-kili. Ano ba naman pasayahin sila at gawing “scar-free” ang kanilang buhay pagibig.

And if you are with a great gal, do everything to make her happy. Don’t ever break her heart. Wag kang magpa-uto sa mga statistics, na nagsasabing, mas marami ang babae sa lalake, kaya ok lang mang-chiks. Ano pa bang gusto mo? Hindi paba sapat na minahal ka niya sa kabila ng iyong pagiging engot at kawalan ng romantic DNA sa katawan? Malaki man ang populasyon nila sa mundo, napaka-liit ng tsansang makakilala ka ulit ng tulad niya. Na magtya-tiyaga sayo.

Tandaan, pansamantala ka mang maakit ng naglalakihang pulang high-heels o maaarteng makintab na sandals, mas masarap paring umuwi sa nag-iisang tsinelas ng buhay mo. ♥

GIRLS :Don’t tolerate boys to hurt you. Wag kayng magpapakatanga samga taong di marunong magpahalaga. Wag niyong hayaang maging mukhang kawawa kayo, its not wrong to fall inlove pero yung magpakatanga ka at hayaang masaktan ka, yun ang MALI.

After the relationship ends, how can you behave in a way that says you respect yourself? It’s hard because being dumped or just ending a relationship can make you feel you’ve failed somehow. Still, it’s important that you respect yourself as a person and carry on. Let’s assume you are a young woman whose boyfriend has just told you he wants to break up with you and see other women.

— DON’T BEG.

He broke up with you. He’s already made up his mind. No matter how shocked, panicked, and in pain you are, don’t beg him for another chance. It’s very hard to do, but to let this end leaving you with some shred of dignity, try hard not to cry too much - of course, it may be impossible not to cry. But crying a little, then saying, “I’m so sad about this, but if that’s your decision, I have no choice but to accept it,” is much more dignified than screaming, “No, don’t leave me! I’ll do anything you want me to!!” Let him leave and then pitch your hysterical fit.

— GATHER YOUR SUPPORTERS.

Now is the time you need your friends and family, more than ever. Call them and tell them you’ve broken up with your true love. They will hopefully come flying to your side to comfort and keep you company while you nurse your broken heart back to health. Don’t try to go it alone.

— RECOGNIZE WHEN IT’S NO USE TRYING TO TALK TO HIM ANYMORE.

He may keep calling you, trying to let you down easy, saying he still cares about you, or many other things. But he still won’t commit himself fully to you, doesn’t really want to be your boyfriend any more, etc. Let him go, girl. It’s no use. His attempts to communicate with you after the fact are not about lingering feelings he has for you - it’s all about him. He’s trying to not be seen as a bad guy, but the reality is, he’s done with your relationship and moving on. It’s time for you to try your hardest to do the same thing.

— DON’T LET HIM STRING YOU ALONG THE FACT. 

He’s told you he plans to date other girls, and maybe he’s even said he will “keep you in mind, just in case things don’t work out.” Even though you still love him, this is a losing proposition for you. This man wants to have his cake and eat it too - he wants to keep you in his pocket as a consolation prize, in case his plan to find a Playboy Bunny fails. You are the backup plan. What a jerk! No matter how much you love him, tell him this will not work for you, and let him know that it’s over. Period.

— NEVER LET HIM SEE YOU SWEAT.

Once the big breakup is over with, don’t keep on letting him get to you. Even if you don’t feel like it, go get dressed up and go out with your friends. You don’t have to get drunk, or try to pick up guys (like they may be doing), but just to go and hang with pals is a good thing. Try to avoid going to places where you will be likely to run into him. If you do see him while you’re out, just smile and nod. If you feel like you might cry, excuse yourself and walk to the restroom. Do your crying in there, and don’t come out till you look strong again (even if you feel shaky inside, you must try your best to look like you’re okay).

— REVIEW THE RELATIONSHIP.

There’s a good chance that now that he’s gone, you can look back and realize there may have been warning signs about this guy. Reviewing the relationship and recognizing where the problems began can be valuable in later relationships - they can clue you in to danger signals in new men, or let you have a chance to adjust your own behaviors, if you really believe you had some fault.

— LISTEN TO BREAKUP SONGS & STORIES.

It helps fill you with a positive feeling of power to hear songs like “I Will Survive,” and “You Oughtta Know.” It can help to hear your friends tell their breakup stories, too. Just knowing that others have gone through similar heartaches can help you feel less alone. Crank up your stereo and rock out - it’ll help, too, knowing that someone wrote a song you can relate to now. You go, girl!

— LET DONE BE DONE.

A lot of guys break up with girls, then want them back later. This may or may not be a good idea. If you do decide to try again, try one more time - don’t try again after that. Going back together time after time may be a bad idea for a number of reasons:

¤ It may let him know you can accept being treated badly and still let him come back, so he’s more likely to treat you badly again (assuming, of course, he treated you badly in the first place).

¤ It may make you seem weak in his eyes - that’s not good if he’s controlling or dominating to begin with or if you know your confidence and self-esteem are not as high as you would like.

¤ It lends an aura of inevitability to the relationship - in other words, you can start to feel like this is your destiny and your doom, that no matter how you try to break away, you will always end up with him, again, if your confidence and esteem levels are low.

¤ If he was disrespectful to you, it desensitizes you to his disrespect of you.

— RECOGNIZE THAT FEW PEOPLE WILL RESPECT YOU UNLESS YOU INSIST.

If you don’t respect yourself, you’re giving others the go-ahead to treat you like dirt. Don’t you dare do that to yourself! Stand up and insist that you be treated with dignity, the way all human beings should be treated. Allowing a guy to walk all over you is the worst disrespect in the world.

— REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE JUST ELIMINATED A MR. or MS. WRONG.

That puts you one step closer to Mr. or Ms. Right. And whatever you do, never settle for Mr. or Ms. You’ll Do.

TIPS:

¤ Don’t try to do this on your own. Get your friends to help you with your heartbreak.

¤ Do a lot of active things - it will help distract you. Exercise, sports, movies, beach trips, outings with girlfriends or relatives, these will all help you pass the time, and show you that you can have a good time without him.

¤ Don’t expect it to be all better overnight. It takes a season of healing. But if you’re honest, each day things get a little easier, as you begin to figure out ways to live as a single person again.

¤ When you feel ready, get back in the dating game! But do it when you feel you’re ready; there is no rush…

Ang isa sa pinakamasakit na mangyayari sa isang relasyon eh yung malaman mo na pinagtataksilan ka ng taong mahal mo. Pinagkakatiwalaan mo siya ng buong buo yun pala hindi mo alam na habang naghihintay ka ng text o tawag niya eh nakikipaglambingan na pala siya sa iba. Ang sakit! Parang ang sarap pumatay ng tao. Aaminin ko, galit ako sa mga taong katulad nila dahil minsan na rin akong nabiktima ng mga gagong un. Nakakatawa nga dahil sa sarili niyang katangahan ko pa siya nahuli. Ang lupet! Pero minsan natanong ko sa sarili ko, ano nga ba ang dahilan bakit may mga taong kagaya nila? Bakit nila nagagawa yun? Sa pagkakataong ito, lawakan natin ang ating isipan at subukan natin silang unuwain dahil baka naman….

Nabobored na siya - hindi ka na siguro katulad ng dati na sweet at thoughtful. Kung dati ang dialogue mo “tara hatid na kita baka anong mangyari sayo sa daan.” eh baka ngayon “magtext ka nalang kung nasa bahay ka na hah.” O baka naman sa 10 taon niyong pagsasama eh hindi mo pa siya nailalabas para magdate? Eh talaga namang mababagot yun at maghahanap ng iba.
Di siya makuntento - aminin natin na minsan talaga hindi tayo makuntento sa kung anong meron tayo kaya naghahanap pa tayo ng “MAS”, mas maganda, mas sexy, mas mayaman o kaya mas malambing, mas masarap, mas magaling. Kung ganun malamang ngang maghahanap at maghahanap yun ng ibang tutugon sa pagkukulang ng isa.
Mahina siya sa tukso - may mga tao talagang mahina sa tukso. Kahit di nila gustong gawin, wala silang palag dahil palay na mismo ang lumalapit. Tao lang ako, yun ang lagi nilang dahilan.
Hindi siya makapili kung sino talaga ang mahal niya - minsan magugulat na lang tayo paggising natin sa umaga marerealize natin na unti unti na pala tayong nahuhulog sa ibang taong madalas nating kausap o kasama. Tapos magiisip tayo ng magiisip kung sino ba talaga ang mahal natin pero dahil sa hindi tayo makapali, ang tanging paraan ay ang pagsabayin sila.
Naghahanap ng atensiyon - baka naman wala ka nang oras sa kaniya. Puro nalang pagdodota, pagbabanda o pagaaral ang inaatupag mo. Baka hindi mo narin napapansin ang bagong niyang rebonded na buhok at facial na mukha kaya naghanap ng ibang taong magbibigay ng mas maraming atensiyon.
Nagsasawa na siya - ang mga tao mabilis magsawa, maumay, gusto laging bago. Ganun talaga tayong mga tao eh, walang permanenteng kasiyahan. Kaya nga hindi tayo nagiging lubusang masaya dahil hindi tayo marunong makuntento.
Gustong maghiganti - eto yung mga taong nabiktima na rin ng mga salawahan at gustong maghiganti. Ganito ang kadalasan nilang sinasabi, “May babae ang boyfriend ko kaya manlalalaki rin ako para maramdaman rin niya kung ano ang nararamdaman ko. Bakit siya lang ba may karapatang manloko?!?”
Gusto lang magmayabang at patunayang malakas ang appeal niya - mas maraming boyfriend/girlfriend, mas malakas daw ang dating. Minsan gusto lang din nilang magmayabang sa tropa na marami siyang girlfriend/boyfriend dahil gwapo/maganda siya.
Gusto niya ng may reserba - marami sa atin takot masaktan at maiwanang mag-isa kaya para maiwasan yun, minsan naghahanap tayo ng pang reserba. “Atleast sigurado kang may magsasalo sa iyo kung saka sakali mang iwanan ka ng isa.” - Yan ang kadalasan nilang sinasabi.
Sadyang likas na sa kaniya ang maging babaero/lalakero - wala tayong magagawa kung sadyang ganiyan ang boyfriend/girlfriend mo, makati, dahil kahit anong gawin mo, mangbababae at manglalalaki yang jowa mo dahil ipinanganak na siyang ganiyan. At hindi malayong mangyari na mamatay na rin siyang ganiyan. Naku wag naman sana!
Sa ngayon yan palang ang naiisip kong maaring maging dahilan. Kung may iba pa, yun ay di ko na alam. Kaya sa mga taong naging biktima ng pagtataksil isipin din natin na baka tayo ang may pagkukulang. Para naman sa mga “two timer”, minsan sana wag maging manhid, isipin niyo rin na sa gagawin mong yan, may taong masasaktan. Hindi ba’t masakit kung sa iyo gagawin yan ng taong mahal mo? Mabilis ang karma at ang masaklap dumarating yan sa pagkakataong hindi mo inaasahan. At kapag tinamaan ka ng karma, triple ang balik niyan sayo, MANIWALA KA!

(c) HiNDI KO PiNAG SISISiHANG MiNAHAL KiTA. “kahit nasaktan ako sayo ng sobra.”

Hindi naman kasi dapat pinapatulan ang mga taong makikitid ang pag iisip. (Para sa mga makikitid ang pag iisip. TAMAAN KAYO!)

Hindi kailangang ikaw lagi ang umintindi kasi, nasasanay sila.

Hindi pwedeng lagi kang nandyan para sakanila kasi kapag nawala ka na, ikaw pa aawayin.

Huwag mong i-explain ang sarili mo sa mga taong hindi MASYADONG nakakaintindi. Para ka lang nag eexplain sa bagong panganak na bata.

Kaya nga minsan, mas gusto ko nalang na mag isa ako or kaming dalawa lang para wala masyadong madamay kapag nagsungit na ako. Kasi kapag nagsungit na ako, sasabihin nanaman na nagbago ako. HAHA :))

Hay buhay. Mga friends ko sa Pinas, sila parin talaga ang tunay na nakakaintindi! :>